Sep 14, 2021Abandoned*trigger warning. Deals with abuse, suicide, sexual abuse* I’ve been alone my whole life. If you know me, you will call me out on this statement. You will see my hugely supportive social media friends. You will see my husband who I met at Uni, still by my side nearly…Adverse Childhood9 min readAdverse Childhood9 min read
Jul 16, 2021Letting goChange is not a gentle thing. Change is uncomfortable and disruptive. When change happens you have no idea what it will be like on the other side. And that’s scary. Our brains like the familiar, not the unknown. …11 min read11 min read
Jul 12, 2021Part 5 — up until todayChapter 23 —Surviving not living. In all my life, through all my struggles, I have never actually made an attempt at taking my own life. This is despite spending my whole life wishing I was dead, up until 2011 when I first came across Cognitive Hypnotherapy and my life changed for ever. I used to…22 min read22 min read
Jul 11, 2021My Story — Part 4 the Uni daysChapter 20 — Off to Uni My stepfather drove me to Uni with all my stuff. My parents were very good at guilt tripping me and I had to demonstrate gratitude for everything they both did. Although I didn’t realise it at the time, the agreement with my father for contributing to my brother and I…7 min read7 min read
Jul 10, 2021My story — Part 3 with mother and stepfatherOk this one talks about tricky stuff too like self harm and suicide…sorry! Avoid if you’re worried about being triggered. Chapter 16 — different house, same old problems I must have been around 15/16 when we moved to a different village on the island. It was in the right catchment for the same school, so I didn’t have…11 min read11 min read
Jul 9, 2021My Story — Part 2 with my mother, stepfather and brotherThis part of my story contains a discussion about sexual abuse. Please do not read it if you feel you may be triggered. I mean it. I am able to be very honest about what happened and I would hate for that to have a negative effect on you Chapter 10 — the nice bit The…11 min read11 min read
Jul 8, 2021My Story — Part 1 with my father / stepmotherGet yourself a cup of coffee and maybe a biscuit…because this could take a while Chapter 1 — before everything changed As far as I can tell, the first few years of my life were unremarkable. I lived on a chicken farm in North Wales. My father was the manager and busy all the time. My…19 min read19 min read
Apr 27, 20215 Lessons I learned from taking my abuser to court**Trigger warning** This article is about child abuse. Please don’t read if you think it might trigger you I picked up the phone and called the NSPCC. “I want to report a case of historical abuse” I said. I was terrified. …Csa4 min readCsa4 min read
Mar 17, 2021We need to be lovedThe Bus journey When I was in high school I used to get the bus to and from school every day. In the morning I was somewhere towards the middle/end of the route so had very little choice on where to sit.On …Think It Change It4 min readThink It Change It4 min read
Mar 1, 2021Struggling with lockdown is normalLots of my clients are struggling. They are struggling more now than they have ever struggled. I think mothers are one of the groups that has struggled most. But it’s hard for everyone, for different reasons. It’s made worse by the word “should”. You see, my clients have all worked…Think It Change It3 min readThink It Change It3 min read
